“Sam was crying today when you didn’t pick him up “ Text from fellow preschool mother
“Go in my room and get my wallet …. I will give you some money so you can go get milk.” Disgruntled and thirsty 4-year-old
“Sam was so happy today that one of his actual parents picked him up.” Mr. Gaga after he left work to pick Sam up from school
“Mom – you need to buy me new underwear.” disgruntled 6-year-old.
“No – I don’t – I just have to do laundry.” Lady Goo Goo Gaga
“Well we know that’s never going to happen.” disgruntled and naked 6-year-old
These are just some of the pit-in-the-stomach inducing comments I received during the past 2 months while I took on a project for work that had me working essentially full-time.
I juggled, I asked for favors, I bribed babysitters, I got more to-go food, and in the end it worked out……kind of.
I decided to take on the extra hours for a few reasons.
#1 – Money. Money is good – especially at the holidays. When I am home wiping butts and vacuuming legos – I actually don’t get paid….go figure.
#2 – So I miss a few soccer games where kids are kicking the ball into the wrong net – and birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese……GOOD!!!!
#3 – I have been home – cooking and cleaning and caring for 6 years. If I have to empty the dishwasher or fold a fitted sheet one more time I am going to gouge out my eyeballs.
#4 – These people aren’t babies….how much do they really need me?
Um…apparently very much.
They tell strangers and other mothers, “I’m sad because I miss my Mommy.”
Can you believe it?
Like it’s not stressful enough – I have to hear something so heartbreaking, and then feel like I have to explain my absence to the stranger or preschool mom that they are pouring their hearts out to.
Plus – I can’t really argue – they are right to miss me.
I have been tired, frazzled and sad.
Also – of course when I am not working – I have to be spending time with the kids and Mr. Gaga, or catching up on my chores, so any “me” time was out the window.
Not that I would have done anything too leisurely with my spare time – but I basically didn’t even have time to get a manicure or a wax.
It’s hard when your kids are crying that they miss you, the laundry is to the ceiling and there’s no milk – to make time for your moustache.
It seems downright selfish to think about trivial things like your appearance.
Work is slowing down a bit now – so I can go back to my duties as driver, laundress and milk supplier.
Aside from the dreariness of housework – there are some perks.
Let’s be honest.
I can work out.
I can have a coffee in the morning while I check emails or watch Kelly Ripa if I want to.
I can work on projects around the house, I can shop, I can pick a recipe and cook it for dinner- instead of throwing chicken nuggets and carrots sticks at everyone and running out the door.
I can read a book to my children and kiss them goodnight.
Even though I complain – it’s quite nice being a stay-at-home mom in some ways.
(I will change my mind in about 3 days – Stay tuned next week when I get a full-time job as a garbage man just to escape.)
The fact is – the grass is always greener and it’s never perfect.
One day mothers will come together and say “You know what – motherhood is hard, whether you are home or working.”
Whether I go to work while your home sipping a mimosa watching Kathie Lee and Hoda Kotb or I’m sipping a latte at my desk and you are home scrubbing the toilet…..it’s a struggle.
If you say it’s not…..you are lying to yourself and others….
There – I said it.
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